Thursday, May 5, 2011

Marriage is not about Age

Puzzled! Yeah, it is kinda weird when my classmates said I'm desperate to get married. Well, don't judge me by the wedding videos that I shared. I do agree that I love watching wedding videos. It makes me happy to see other people are happy. Besides, I love to see how they produce such video. There's a video I watched. I think it's the best till now. The music and the camera angle are perfect. In fact, I was not even bothered to look on how prestige the wedding is.Most of my school friends are starting to think of settling down. So, it is pretty normal for me to talk about marriage. Oh, come on. Don't lie to me by saying u're not interested to. Or you just happen to act like you're not interested. I have friends that already have a baby, just got married and also engaged. Yep, same age-22!

My parents are not expecting me to talk much about this. I'm still their little baby girl. But, not denying their daughter is taken (maybe). My current plan is to settle down in 2015. I need to further my study first. And Daddy said he will only allow me to go abroad with a condition: my husband will take care of me.

Marriage can happen to anyone at any age. And you don't have to know a person that long to marry him/her. All in God's hands. But, istikharah will help you a lot. Not in choosing spouse only, but also on other issues in life. If you ask Him to decide what's best for you, He will show you the way. InsyaAllah, one day you will have that feeling, knowing that person is the one. Maybe now, or tomorrow. Yeah, tomorrow never dies.

I believe that thinking of settling down (marriage) is a good thing. It helps you draft your life plan. I used to read a book saying that, a successful person plans a decade in advance. Planning to settle down also motivates you to be a better person. Simply ask yourself, would you marry you? If the answer will be ermmm.. aaaa.. hesitating to answer, I guess there're still a lot to do.

Don't wait for tomorrow as tomorrow may not exist. But, to have it is totally a gift.


7 comments:

adam said...

pada usia ini untuk berkahwin memang keluarga kurang bersetuju kerana mereka mahukan anak mereka menyelesaikan dulu study.lagi2 kalau pasangan yang berjauhan.

usia 21 dan keatas adalah usia manusia baru memasuki alam dewasa yang matang dan mahu mencari teman hidup.jadi mmg tak salah usia sebegini memikirkan hal2 jodoh.

jika kita bertemu seseorang dan hati kita merelakan sepenuhnya ia menjadi pasangan kita, insyaAllah itulah orangnya.mulut mungkin boleh menipu tetapi hati tidak.love come from heart

Nadhirah Ahmad said...

adam: betul tu. cinta datang dari hati. tak boleh dipaksa tapi boleh dipupuk

My MiRa said...

alahai dorang tuh..benda cm tuh pun nak kate orang kan ??kan??ckp kat die..mmg la saya nak kawen awak tak nak ke??hehehe

Nadhirah Ahmad said...

Mira: hehe. normal lah tu kan

Ms. Farah said...

i feel the same way too, except that im 23!!! my friends and i, we talk a lot about this especially since some of our friends are married, engaged and yes, i also have a friend who has 2 babies already and yes, same age as me too.

it's good to know that other people think about this too! :)

Nadhirah Ahmad said...

farah: its good to hear others thinking the same thing. it makes us feel better, thinking we're normal!

Nazirah said...

well, it's normal for people to critic others..just to show they are good..be yourself..

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